Work / Life Balance for Successful Entrepreneurs

Just my run down on that release from coppyblogger. What was it “8 Reasons Why Rich People hate their lives” - it’s from lateral action.

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- It’s Just Business

Yeah I guess I’ve said that one before, but it’s often really to remind me to stay competitive, personally I’ll support businesses I believe in, but really, only in extreme cases will I exercise prejudice over someone who is less competitive but I chose to support. Maybe that’s my problem.

“Wise, happy millionaires know that real wealth, the kind that lasts and
multiplies, comes from creating value. They cultivate empathy rather than
trying to amputate it. They focus on contribution. They solve real problems
and make the world better.”

Yeah I don’t know I’m not really driven by the idea that I can save the world. Sometimes I just think the world’s too broken, too subject to forces that are bigger than just one person.

I do believe in providing something of value though, of being more efficient, and more responsive, and letting common sense prevail in the mind of the customer.

“Wise, happy millionaires refuse to do things they hate. When they do
something they suck at, it’s because they get off on the growth and the
learning experience. They partner with others who complement their
strengths, so everyone is doing work that’s meaningful, that turns them on,
that’s fun.”

I’m a bit concerned this is pretty lightweight so far.

Its not very convincing, its hardly a revelation, it doesn’t motivate me to be a better person, just sounds like a bunch of excuses to fail.

This is what I feel, that sitting there broke, unable to break free and do the things you want to do, it’s easy to say “oh well, I did the right thing” etc., it’s not say easy to savour that when you’ve been betrayed by a friend or left feeling unrewarded an unfulfilled by your contribution tosomething that hasn’t manifested.

I dunno, money is money, sometimes clinging ideals just sounds like desperate justification. My motto is that money fixes problems. It doesn’t create joy, but it sure fixes problems.

Chasing the horizon:

Once we’re out of extreme poverty, our income has virtually no effect on how happy we are.

Being great-looking has no effect on how happy we are.

You think that those things will make you happy. You think you’re different. We all think that.

If it can be measured, it’s not what you’re really pursuing. The yardstick is just a tool to help you get some focus.

This makes me think of my first BMW. And my second one too. But y’know, I knew the damn car wouldn’t make me happy. I used to love driving that first bmw off on a business mission, the music blasting, but that’s gone now, and I actually have a nicer car. But the thought of getting that BMW kept me going, kept me pushing, I wanted that car, and that car was going toget me to the next stage.

It’s making me think I’m not really focused on what I want, that’s my problem. I sit there thinking, oh well what I want is to reach a nexus of creativity - to walk into a creative zone, where creatively and also with the ladies, I’m defining myself explicitly. But the drive isn’t really there like it was when I was thinking of my BMW, that’d I’d have a sweet BMW and I’d be rolling in style.

It was silly, but it worked. I wanted to be like Don Draper. Sophisticated and masculine. But Don Draper is tall and handsome and the actor who plays him, Jon Hamm, actually drops the register/tone of his voice to play him.

It’s not about facade’s really. It’s about storytelling. But that’s something else. It’s not lying, or deception, it’s a story. And stories aren’t always like real life, they’re only just enough like it to make us believe.

I guess part of the car thing is that the car seems silly when I’m barely earning. Except I’m not barely earning. I’m still earning an average wage, but as I mentioned, relativity is messing me up right now!

It’s that reoccurring concept, I’m not passionate about fixing the world, I’m losing my passion for artistry, or so it seems, and you’ve got to look deeper to ask what inspires you and if you can’t find it, explore why you’re doing the things you do.

It’s not about living a simpler life, but planting the seeds for a richer life. Sanghra. Community

At the moment I just fear being washed up broke, I fear how unpleasant and mercenary people have become, and having to live amongst all their problems.

When you consume a luxury every day, it’s not a luxury any more. A super caramel
triple-shot cappuccino with whipped cream and sprinkles is a luxury when you drink it
once a month, making a little ritual out of it, sitting at your favorite table in the coffee
shop and drinking in tiny sips with your eyes closed.

That’s the hedonic treadmill. Pleasure becomes ordinary, so you seek more and more
sensation, something more and more luxurious to give you the same payoff.

Yes, well.

I miss the cafe. And I know saving $20 or $30 a week by not going their everyday when I’m actually making in the neighbourhood of $500 less each week than I did last year is kind of meaningless deprivation.

I just gotta take some assurance that if I only make as much as I do now, I don’t have to go to the cafe every day, and that’s okay.

A lot of people have certain luxuries that become yardsticks for them. “I’ll feel successful
when I buy a Mercedes.” “I’ll feel successful when I have an Armani suit.”

ahem

More specifically, spend money on experiences. Have adventures. Travel. Take classes.
Connect with your family and friends.

Yeah I must admit these days I look back on all my tours of the south island with Short Circuit, even though they were mostly disasters, it was a great experience. It was meaningful, I felt alive.

But how can experience satisfy if you don’t know where you’re going? If you don’t know where you’ll end up?

When you worry you won’t fulfill your potential?

A funny thing happens when you tell a bright, curious kid that he’s smart.
You actually set him on a track to be unhappy, have a terrible self-image, stay on a
treadmill that never gets him where he wants to go, and live with a constant gnawing pit
of self doubt.

oh oh. o rly?

When success is about talent, you don’t take that much pleasure in achievement. After
all, it’s just your natural gifts, nothing you really worked for. Conversely, when you fail,
it becomes a fatal portent that you aren’t gifted or talented after all.

ouch that hurts. Well it has for the last 25 odd years anyway.

What can I do about that? Look towards growth? Do more of what I’m doing that’s not working?

(IE blogging)

keep banging my head against the wall desperately hoping for clients to materialize?

Your family may worry you’re “going a little overboard on this success stuff.” Your
parents may tell you not to go thinking you’re some kind of millionaire. And your
friends may try to pressure you into “lightning up” and wasting time with them on some
lame activity you don’t even like all that much.

Yeah, I’ve been through all that, I’m over it. That’s why I write this blog because you can’t take anyone you’re related to that seriously. Or your friends. I have to work it out for myself.  Or, as the guide suggests, get in with some new friends who have got it down.

Where am I going to find people like that? Well, life’s just one big adventure isn’t it?

rich people like to hang out with other rich people.

They like hanging out with people who expect to succeed. They benefit from making
friends they can do business with. And they know that we all unconsciously pick up the
beliefs and expectations of the people we spend a lot of time with.

Your business will eat all of the time you make available for it. And it will still be
hungry, no matter how much you give it.

Yeah I guess I understand all of that. Well, I do now. I just don’t quite know how to open the door to a new and better life without letting in all these influences that have created problems for me in the past.

You want to connect with something positive. It’s just finding that positivity, and resisting negative influences as you attempt to expose yourself to something positive, that’s the next challenge.